Naturally, you might get anxious about this responsibility as a parent.
You might also get nervous about your kids succeeding in life—and homework often becomes the focus of that concern.
Your blood pressure on the rise is a no-win for everyone.
Take five or ten minutes to calm down, and let your child do the same if you feel a storm brewing. Here are a few possibilities that I’ve found to be effective with families: When you start over-focusing on your child’s work, pause and think about your own goals.
Your child might forget to do his homework, do his homework but not hand it in, do it sloppily or carelessly, or not study properly for his test.
These are just a few ways that kids try to hold onto the little control they have.But when parents feel it’s their responsibility to get their kids to achieve, they now something from their children—they need them to do their homework and be a success.I believe this need puts you in a powerless position as a parent because your child doesn’t have to give you what you want.Let homework stay where it belongs—between the teacher and the student.Stay focused on your job, which is to help your child do his job. If you feel yourself getting reactive or frustrated, take a break from helping your child with homework.When he stops making an effort and you see his grades drop, that’s when you invite yourself in.You can say: Set up a plan with your child’s input in order to get him back on his feet.The natural consequences will come from the choices he makes—if he doesn’t choose to get work done, his grades will drop.When that happens, you can ask him some honest questions: Be careful not to be snarky or judgmental, just ask the question honestly.I’m a big believer in natural consequences when it comes to schoolwork.Within the structure you set up, your child has some choices. And he can choose to do it well and with effort or not.